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枫下佳缘 / 情爱悠悠 / I am about to leave my girlfriend, BecauseI am not very sure I am doing the right things, can Dxs help me?
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
(#732302@0)
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因果关系没太弄懂，仔细说说？
-x86(㊣宗);
2002-9-6
(#732307@0)
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I think I should not carry on my relationship with my girlfriend, but I also do not want to miss something, that is good to me.Anyway, everyone has shortcomings. To be continued.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
(#732317@0)
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一般来说异地的感情不容易维持，尤其当你们年龄比较轻的时候。
-x86(㊣宗);
2002-9-6
(#732328@0)
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We are here in Toronto, two singles.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
(#732349@0)
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明白了。如果你觉得她不适合你就果断分手，不要考虑过多。不是还没结婚没孩子吗？
-x86(㊣宗);
2002-9-6
(#732352@0)
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No, we has no children. Both of us have never married. Actually we stayed together for some time. Now I have actually rent another room. I try to find out what she think. But I think she is happy when she know it.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
(#732361@0)
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那不更好？
-x86(㊣宗);
2002-9-6
(#732369@0)
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What do you mean?
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
(#732376@0)
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你不是说如果她知道你想分手她就高兴吗？
-x86(㊣宗);
2002-9-6
(#732381@0)
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Yes, It is not "if". I tried to find out what her reation is when she know I have found the room. I told her when I started to look for another room.I do not want to create a problem for the society.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
{50}
(#732389@0)
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无论怎样千万别做傻事，任何问题都能得到解决，任何事情都能过去。
-x86(㊣宗);
2002-9-6
(#732408@0)
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But there is no meaning to maste time. Also, staying togeter with her is part of the reason I lost my job. And I think it it will do harm to my study.( In fact there are occasions that this happened.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
(#732421@0)
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I think the main reason she is happy is that she is free again. Although we once up a time we had agreed that we do not want to interfere each other's life.We do not really want to do that because it hurts the relationship.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
{67}
(#732554@0)
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My friend is not the kind of intelligent, although she graduated from a good school and has been to England. What I think I can not torolate is she is too selffish ( self-centered),
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
(#732346@0)
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mmmm, that's a problem, is she very young............and how about u? r u a very caring unselfish person?
-babyface(★RAW RAW★);
2002-9-6
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She is 33 and I am 30.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
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Age doesn't have to related with mature or unmature sometimes..........It's more about experience.
-babyface(★RAW RAW★);
2002-9-6
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Yes, you are right.One thing I think I will not be capable to do is to educate her.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
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We are not young. She is the youngest child in her family, which I think could be the cause of her shortcoming. I do not have too much experience with women.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
(#732366@0)
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not really.............I know many ppl here who are the youngest child in family, who are not spoiled but very caring, warm, and understanding.
-babyface(★RAW RAW★);
2002-9-6
(#732385@0)
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It depands largely on education, I guess.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
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I think I am not. But of course it takes people time to know me and I am not smart to let people to know this.I am sorry. I should use Chinese. But In I am in a library now. Also I want to hide my ID in my home computer.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
{110}
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But think she has no ability to know this, although she attempted after she consulted someone. She thought I do not know she consulted someone.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
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One of the things I am not comfortable with is that she always consults someone in dealing with me. I do not know who she is consulting with, one friend or many. She once had a good friend.But later I got to know that she is playing with her when she is selling some stuff to her friend/
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
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(#732535@0)
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Sorry typed wrong. What I want to say is that I am reasonaly caring and unselfish.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
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She is always looking for someone who has more money, or could be used to advance her career.But she has good money, and she has a mild temper, which I think is important because I am knid of Authoritarian
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
{112}
(#732353@0)
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perfect matchA mild tempered, not so intelligent girl, who else is going to take an authoritarian yet undecisive man like you? Well she wants someone to help her advance her career, and looks you don't mind sharing the extra money she is going to make from that career, so the two of you are even. You are probably a perfect match, just remember that :)
-rounder(rounder);
2002-9-6
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(#732379@0)
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:) But there is always someone who has deeper pocket.BTW, I am not undecisive, I think. Only my IQ is 50. :)
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
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(#732409@0)
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And I do not have interest to share a women as my wife with someone else. Serious.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
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What (charactor / personality) about her do u like/love mostly??................I mean we know what u dislike about her already...
-babyface(★RAW RAW★);
2002-9-6
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She is mild. She can tolorate my often anger.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
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Which is totally not enough...............and no sense! :-((
-babyface(★RAW RAW★);
2002-9-6
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I know I need to change my temper. But what I encounter everyday here in Canada just make me even more anygry. Everywhere I go, I am seen as an imposter. Sometime I just do not know how to cheat people. To be humble?
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
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I was asking you what speciality u see on her, and why did u like her, what make her unique to you.....................not just becoz she could be a nice 灭火器。
-babyface(★RAW RAW★);
2002-9-6
(#732502@0)
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是啊是啊，要冷静，这种事，只能你自己决定，你们又没有好好谈过想法？两个人不会什么事都有同样的想法，还是要说出来的。
-henhen(哼哼~~,找工ing~~~~);
2002-9-6
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I am the most humble person according to the definition of the Bible.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
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Oh ok ok.............Whatever! @_@
-babyface(★RAW RAW★);
2002-9-6
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:)
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
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偶们好多人都很humble，这世上有多少big brother？别把自己看低，也别把人看太高，平常心。
-henhen(哼哼~~,找工ing~~~~);
2002-9-6
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come on,buddy, 地球人都知道，all girls are self-centred. everyone knows that after they got mature.(找安全帽ing)
-win(秋天的菠菜);
2002-9-6
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找好安全帽了么？
-lilyba(Sunshine);
2002-9-6
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绣球 is welcome
-win(秋天的菠菜);
2002-9-6
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再帮你补充一句：铅球 is more than welcome.
-lilyba(Sunshine);
2002-9-6
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不好，太重了，俺推不动的。
-henhen(哼哼~~,找工ing~~~~);
2002-9-6
(#732524@0)
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I am sure if she will . There has been incidents that if something really happpen she will act the way she used to.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
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Sorry,( Typed wrong). I am not sure if she will. she is not young.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
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What could the indication of this kind of maturity?
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
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help you what?
-win(秋天的菠菜);
2002-9-6
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Please see upstarirs, I do not know whether leaving her is the right thing.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
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WHY? WHY LEAVE? OR NOT LEAVE??................I am so confused! @_@
-babyface(★RAW RAW★);
2002-9-6
(#732339@0)
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^_*
-henhen(哼哼~~,找工ing~~~~);
2002-9-6
(#732341@0)
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先暂时分居吧，感觉到你们之间似乎是强强联手，理论上讲，应该是互补才对。
-lilyba(Sunshine);
2002-9-6
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What I see is, we are "WEAK_WEAK".Maybe I am the kind of person good at doing SOME things, but I am weak handling human relations. This is the reason I do not have too many friends. ( Actually I am counting how many friends I have , but I do not have a good number).
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
{232}
(#732446@0)
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我觉得呢，分开一下看看，你现在做的正是这样。你有自己的时间考虑一下，你想从婚姻或感情中得到什么。温暖，关怀，快乐，事业。你现在是否得到了。你想为他做些什么，你是否因为付出而快乐。。。
-lilyba(Sunshine);
2002-9-6
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I think what I want is to build a life together, to have a family. That is what I think the critical part.It happened that her major is close to mine. So sometime I can tell what her boss is working on is lousy. By the way I have never get anything from her, except sex :)
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
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I always believe that people can achieve more if a unit is formed. Also I think family life( having chilren, therefore fulfill the obligation of reproduction of hume race), is important to my life.I will substantially increase my overall utility level. So I am willing to sacrifice someting in my life in order to have a good family life. I am not in a very comfortable situation now. So I do not really have too much to give.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
{230}
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this is called wee-wee 联手
-win(秋天的菠菜);
2002-9-6
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:)
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
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Based on what you said, yes you are doing the right thing!
-contact(Contact);
2002-9-6
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How do you make the judgement?
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
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To live with you, you need somebody not necessary the best, but must be most suitable to you!
-contact(Contact);
2002-9-6
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Sometime I really do not want a lonely life.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-6
(#732542@0)
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错了，一个人不一定lonely的，你天天来刷rolia，肯定不会lonely，反而睡觉的时间都没有。
-henhen(哼哼~~,找工ing~~~~);
2002-9-6
(#732548@0)
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You are only 30. Your golden age just started.
-contact(Contact);
2002-9-6
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Do you want to jump to another boat? Be careful, don't jump into the water unless you can swim :-)
-early30s(i am kidding);
2002-9-7
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I do not have another boat. Also, I can swim quite well. :) Thank you anyway.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-8
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when I am young as your age，the same things happened on me，we were lived in seperate far place，what happened at later time exceeded what we could imaged。when I calm for a considerate thinking，in fact，I beleive we were not happy due to the young and the distance and unsure future，why did I
torture her and me？so，I don't want to tell you giving up the relationship
casually，but choosing quiting wisly at proper time when you feel the intention becaming a fact that both of you deeply endure the torture is absolutely right.
take care
-maomaocong(成年毛毛虫);
2002-9-7
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(#734408@0)
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Thank you. Maybe I still have much more to experience, although I am not young.Besides, both my grilfriend and I have just migrated to this country. Therfore we are facing an uncertain future, which makes any commitment almost impossible. Although I want a stable relationship very much, the reality is that I can not have it right now. I was just not born in the right time and not in the right place right now. Thank you all for your advices and I hope I can treat my girlfriend well no matter what is ahead of our lives.
-iq50(headingnowhere);
2002-9-8
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(#735183@0)
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good luck!
god will bless you...!
-maomaocong(成年毛毛虫);
2002-9-8
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