Topic: 为什么在加拿大找对象男的比女的困难？ @佛州华人论坛:佛州枫下论坛 The Rolia Forum of Florida

枫下佳缘 / 情爱悠悠 / 为什么在加拿大找对象男的比女的困难？ -clinux(C/Linux); 2001-10-16 {1200} (#226794@0)

What eglinton ave meant was that he's already given up... :) by the way, it's east or west? :) -mocha(Mocha Java); 2001-10-16 (#226870@0)

It is not as easy as clinux thought. -marriner(marriner); 2001-10-17 (#227177@0)

找工作够难吧，很多人不都找到了。即使暂时找不到得，一年半载后一般都没问题。为什么？凭一颗坚韧不拔，屡试屡败仍持之以恒的心。如果用这种精神的一半来经营爱情，别说一个白女人，仙女怕都要思凡了。 -clinux(C/Linux); 2001-10-17 (#227637@0)

Whenever we decided to immigrate, we have to prepare to learn the weston culture, be adapt to the weston culture. Many of the people here don't understand this and always try to hide in China town.I think that is why many new immigrants do not feel happy. I am not saying that we should forget our Chinese culture. But it is the fact that we will go further away from our old culture and be melt into the weston culture step by step. -clinux(C/Linux); 2001-10-26 {236} (#237915@0)

Your intention is good but ... -marriner(marriner); 2001-10-26 {1286} (#237969@0)

Many chinese girls waiting ..., you just don't see them. :) -wjiaca(枫华人); 2001-10-17 (#227139@0)

The most difficult thing is the language and culture difference. At least, if you can not understanding her colloquy and can not make her laugh, it is very embarrassing.So white girls are very suitable for temporary partners but not for wives.
Their advantage is: if a Chinese girl dumps you, you have nothing left;
if a white girl dumps you, it is nothing worse than taking one year's ESL. -marriner(marriner); 2001-10-17 {224} (#227155@0)

But it worth trying because available Chinese girls are scarce here. Most of them are either u*ly or demanding. I would rather change to gay than pursue a girl of that sort. -marriner(marriner); 2001-10-17 (#227179@0)

so scary. I can bear other races to be gay, but not asian. -leedsyu(mimi); 2001-10-17 (#227195@0)

To be honest, i feel it is more difficult for Chinese woman to find a boyfriend or husband. -lilyba(lily); 2001-10-17 (#227262@0)

r u kidding? -marriner(marriner); 2001-10-17 (#227316@0)
It is easy to find a boyfriend, but hard to find a husband. -leedsyu(mimi); 2001-10-17 (#227321@0)
You got the point ! So few good Chinese guys here. And I never think white guys really wanna marry an Asian girl if he can find a good white girl. But if only for partner, different -wander2001(wander); 2001-10-17 (#227343@0)

sorry, i am not in toronto. i am in west canada. this is the feeling in west canada. (hehe...) -lilyba(lily); 2001-10-17 (#227356@0)
don't misunderstand. I just show personal opinion, just like many guys said " no good girl here" haha, different criteria, nothing else -wander2001(wander); 2001-10-17 (#227361@0)

夹缝中生存的中国女人（现在上班，简单写一点〕1。中西文化冲突－有关独立性
我认为能够在加拿大生存的中国女人，在中国男人的眼里过于独立，而在本地人的眼里仍然不是一个adult woman。
2。理想于现实的冲突
找丈夫时过于实际，自己也不甘心，对方也不满意；过于浪漫，不考虑车子房子，可还得想想未来的孩子。作为一个女人，却要象一个男人一样打世界。
3。现在上班，今天晚上好好体会体会，再继续。 -lilyba(lily); 2001-10-17 {332} (#227354@0)

于我心有戚戚焉... -why(coffee); 2001-10-17 (#227357@0)
Oh, you really said my feeling. Hand// -wander2001(wander); 2001-10-17 (#227368@0)
加拿大为新移民中的女性提供了很多工作机会,看你自己能不能很好利用. -outsider(outsider); 2001-10-17 (#227370@0)

I am not a woman.It is lot more easy for a woman to find a good job. -outsider(outsider); 2001-10-17 (#227380@0)

outsider is outsider, woman is woman, job is job, husband is husband. are you a single man or a married man? ;-)), what kind of job do you mean. what kind of husband can you provide? -lilyba(lily); 2001-10-17 (#227382@0)

I would rather you say English. 英文中好象还中听点。你的英文还不至于好到能够显示你的idea。 -lilyba(lily); 2001-10-17 (#227393@0)

唉唉唉，别人在谈纯感情，你扯扯就扯工作上了，真没劲，怪不得丫头们都找老外了，哈。。。 -superguest(一枝狗尾巴花); 2001-10-17 (#227386@0)

Job is job. Partner is partner. A jobless Chinese female immigrant will have no difficulties in finding a white BF. For man, you are hopeless. -marriner(marriner); 2001-10-17 (#227395@0)

the problem is man prefer parter more than woman. woman prefer stable feeling and family and warmth. -lilyba(lily); 2001-10-17 (#227399@0)

No great difference. For many Chinese female, stable feeling and warmth are synonym of material elements. -marriner(marriner); 2001-10-17 (#227402@0)

My tip is: 1. looking for white girl in Canada. It is not easy but worth trying, when the probability to find a good Chinese GF is also 0.0001%. 2. looking for Chinese girl back in China.Do not be cynical to those girls in Canada who date with non-Chinese. Just
forget them. -marriner(marriner); 2001-10-17 {88} (#227409@0)

第一点不太明白:为什么在本地人的眼里仍然不是一个adult woman?因为中国人看起来比实际年龄小?第二点,很多女人找丈夫时都有理想于现实的冲突,也需要找一个平衡点，这跟在哪里无关。 -fionah(fiona); 2001-10-17 (#227397@0)

look at you, then every people ( including man and woman) know the answer, why woman is more difficult to find an idea man. -lilyba(lily); 2001-10-17 (#227406@0)

I am not meant to be offensive. Just state the physical properties. White girls are not perfect as well. They have heavy body hairs and smells. The problem is that too many Chinese women are racists and materialists. -marriner(marriner); 2001-10-17 (#227415@0)

i will write in detail after work. -lilyba(lily); 2001-10-17 (#227404@0)
有一点\\奇怪，为什么“看”起来\多数人都反对中国MM嫁外国GG呢？(要是你觉得GG说的不好，就理解成GHOSTGHOST 的简写好了。XIXI)，只是好奇，没有任何争论的意思。。。 -cocotea(可可茶); 2001-10-17 (#227547@0)

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