Topic: 老话题，过来人请指点：女友想结婚，自己感觉没准备好，于是她受伤害 @佛州华人论坛:佛州枫下论坛 The Rolia Forum of Florida

枫下佳缘 / 情爱悠悠 / 老话题，过来人请指点：女友想结婚，自己感觉没准备好，于是她受伤害 -archipelago(阿珂劈了狗); 2003-4-27 {684} (#1160267@0)

你们在哪里,都多大了,都在做什么?呵呵,不是查户口,而是这些对事情都有很关键的影像.直觉你的女朋友觉得你们的关系不够稳定,有点破釜沉舟的意思. -cocotea(可可茶-慢慢的沉淀); 2003-4-27 (#1160272@0)

但问题不解决，就是结了婚也可能要离婚。她一直对我说，我家里这么对她的话，离婚是很可能的。与其有了孩子才离婚，不如现在不结婚。然后突然就要我结婚，搞不清楚，头大。在多伦多，我们都过了中国晚婚年龄了。我在工作，她上学。 -archipelago(阿珂劈了狗); 2003-4-27 (#1160489@0)

她没有安全感，所以想了断，要么结要么散，假如你没准备好，以后万一有摩擦，会很讨厌的，除非一方迁就另一方。纯数个人意见。：）） -henhen(哼哼,丫丫); 2003-4-27 (#1160497@0)

是，他的女朋友有恐惧感。 -tianwaixian(金戈铁马); 2003-4-27 (#1160514@0)
我是没准备好。将来肯定会有摩擦，而且不会小。该怎么迁就？迁就能让问题解决吗？她是不愿意讨好我父母的，总是针尖对麦芒。我母亲的脾气比她更极端。 -archipelago(阿珂劈了狗); 2003-4-27 (#1160526@0)

结婚是永远准备不好的。如果双方不是那么心甘情愿，还是不结婚的好，否则后患无穷。 -rainrain(雨雨我爱迷迭香); 2003-4-27 (#1160277@0)

Marriage is the big decision in your life. If you are not ready, don’t take this further.Marriage is the big decision in your life. If you are not ready, don’t take this further. Otherwise you will incur more unpredictable. I know you suspend decision make her harmful. By the way, the personality is more important than her others aspect. Just think you are looking for life partner than generally friend. You can give up your friend you tire of her( or him), but for spouse it is not a easy job. Anyway, only you know what you should do. More thinking, less rush, you will be better. -prettycat(prettycat); 2003-4-27 {497} (#1160440@0)

从你所说的，你们两应该可以结婚了。双方家长不是主要的。但你记得忍让为先。人要看人品。品德好，性子急不是缺点。 -tianwaixian(金戈铁马); 2003-4-27 (#1160490@0)

我父母很希望和我住在一起。但和她相处不好，矛盾很大。做为儿子，如果父母说要来和我住，我也只有申请他们过来。我身边有两个朋友，都是因为丈夫的父母和妻子相处不来，最终导致离婚的。不是危言耸听。 -archipelago(阿珂劈了狗); 2003-4-27 (#1160524@0)

after two years, he still cannot make a promise to the girl, something wrong within this relationship. -ningxin0809(雁影行洲); 2003-4-28 (#1161699@0)

That's why I make this post. Come on, suggestions! -archipelago(阿珂劈了狗); 2003-4-28 (#1161936@0)

如果她不肯迁就你父母，性格如此霸道，那就品行太差。什么叫温柔贤惠。 -tianwaixian(金戈铁马); 2003-4-28 (#1161675@0)
看来你是大孝子。你是为自己娶老婆，还是给你父母找媳妇。为什么不分开住呢，如果你还算爱她的话。 -redlobster(nuxia); 2003-4-30 (#1165875@0)

如果这个人不孝，对自己的亲生父母都不好，能对别人好了吗？这人不值的怀疑怀疑吗？ -tianwaixian(金戈铁马); 2003-5-1 (#1166597@0)

dump her! how come she could threaten you, that is not good! -happy76(happy forever); 2003-4-28 (#1161658@0)
如果站在她的角度上想，一个女人对一个男人提出结婚的要求若被拒绝也是挺窝火的，你们现在的情况也确实不适合结婚，结婚不是玩过家家是需要慎重考虑。 -bingbingz(领悟); 2003-4-28 (#1161759@0)

One reason why she is in a hurry for the merriage is that: Once we become spouse, I need her signature to sponsor my parents to immigrate. She wants to get this power.I have no doubt that she loves me, but I don't want to be in a rush in this case. -archipelago(阿珂劈了狗); 2003-4-28 {82} (#1161916@0)
And last night she told her mom I REFUSED her. Jesus! -archipelago(阿珂劈了狗); 2003-4-28 (#1161925@0)

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