I am confused, A, If he never mention the money ( Jeez, a big amount ?), which means what? he is generous to u (coz he is so interested with u?), or would u start to worry about his ability to protect his -babyface(★Unsophisticate★) @佛州华人论坛:佛州枫下论坛 The Rolia Forum of Florida

枫下佳缘 / 情爱悠悠 / 如何在最短的时间里，了解一个成熟的男人的大致为人，品行？ -oldlady(no); 2002-12-5 {56} (#894947@0)
预测到将来可能过的生活？已屡爱屡败，情商低！盼指点，谢谢

太难！大致是自立，自强，自爱--别拿他当回事，当他拿你当回事时在爱他不迟 -yihan(mimi); 2002-12-5 (#894975@0)
ask him to go out for a travel for 2-3 days, then... -fatboy(大胖墩儿厨); 2002-12-5 (#895032@0)

THEN 围城。嘿嘿。 -babyface(★Unsophisticate★); 2002-12-5 (#895080@0)

自立，自强，自爱!:-) haha -fatboy(大胖墩儿厨); 2002-12-5 (#895091@0)

Good idea. The lady should be able to find out this man's daily behavior such as if he brush teeth and take a bath everyday and if knows how to schedule well and lots of other details -tongcd(zombie); 2002-12-5 (#895093@0)

you got it, but what baby saying is that people will still pretending, like Sun Rou-jia in 围城:-) -fatboy(大胖墩儿厨); 2002-12-5 (#895100@0)

I don't think he can hide all thoughts or behavior he may have. Anyhow, it is just like a job interview. He may try to pretend he is perfect, but details tell truth. Have him fired when the lady know she was cheated -tongcd(zombie); 2002-12-5 (#895110@0)

刷不刷牙，洗不洗澡，倒还不是太大不了的事，因为可以慢慢训练(lol)...倒是性格为人，心地，喜好更重要。 -babyface(★Unsophisticate★); 2002-12-5 (#895128@0)

Correct. :-) And it takes time to know somebody very well -tongcd(zombie); 2002-12-5 (#895150@0)

置于死地而后生。 -iceblue2002(waiting for you); 2002-12-5 (#895034@0)
当然是品行, 美丽的心灵最重要, 至于有脚气, 不爱洗澡等如果你不是有洁癖就不重要, -P 最简单省钱的办法是看几部大片, 然后和他探讨一下, 看他怎么说. -ssi(文文); 2002-12-5 (#895097@0)

"谈人生"是没有用的，因为很多人说一套，作一套，或者关说不练。 -babyface(★Unsophisticate★); 2002-12-5 (#895132@0)

你?我?他?它们?*_* -ssi(文文); 2002-12-5 (#895135@0)
没吃过猪肉还是看过猪跑的吧, 你没碰到好的不代表所有的男同胞都是烂茄子啊(歪瓜劣枣已经被粒粒拔定义为好吃, 不会有人专门吃烂茄子吧*_^)真的假不了,假的真不了长不了. -ssi(文文); 2002-12-5 (#895144@0)

@_@， Jesus Christ! -babyface(★Unsophisticate★); 2002-12-5 (#895157@0)

babyface, ssi(文文) is a new generation of fighter here. -tongcd(zombie); 2002-12-5 (#895170@0)

@_@， Jesus Christ! -ssi(文文); 2002-12-5 (#895179@0)

what makes you surprised? -tongcd(zombie); 2002-12-5 (#895192@0)

白天不懂夜的黑 -ssi(文文); 2002-12-5 (#895206@0)

反之也对。 -babyface(★Unsophisticate★); 2002-12-5 (#895228@0)
well, I know it's none of my businese. Just a friendly remind. Something like this may "你没碰到好的" hurt some people sometimes. -tongcd(zombie); 2002-12-5 (#895240@0)

"你"是泛指, 你地, 明白? -ssi(文文); 2002-12-5 (#895247@0)

well, ok -tongcd(zombie); 2002-12-5 (#895256@0)

删的挺快嘛,快赶上温杀了. 不过我明白你的意思, 你说同样是一个道理, 如果你用江核心做例子, 和你用路边一气概做例子, 哪个效果好? 别的就不能顾虑那么多了, 自然有办法解决*_* -ssi(文文); 2002-12-5 (#895203@0)

我都不会拿来作例子.(你是说乞丐，是吗?) -babyface(★Unsophisticate★); 2002-12-5 (#895222@0)

是说乞丐 -ssi(文文); 2002-12-5 (#895258@0)

找他借一笔，对你对他来说都不是小数目的钱。 -macsym(日进斗斤); 2002-12-5 (#895140@0)

what's the point? -fatboy(大胖墩儿厨); 2002-12-5 (#895142@0)

说了是一大笔钱，你还关心小数点干嘛？ -win(秋天的菠菜); 2002-12-5 (#895153@0)
confiscate the money if the man fails to brush teeth and hit a shower everyday -nightmarewaltz(Ben Heppner); 2002-12-5 (#895165@0)
观察一下，他对此的态度，以及对你的态度。 -macsym(日进斗斤); 2002-12-5 (#895220@0)

I am confused, A, If he never mention the money ( Jeez, a big amount ?), which means what? he is generous to u (coz he is so interested with u?), or would u start to worry about his ability to protect his -babyface(★Unsophisticate★); 2002-12-5 {542} (#895254@0)
property by lending monedy to anybody casually.

B, If he won't lend u the money, then waht? 1, maybe he really needs the money, and he knows u don't. but just do it for a "test". 2, u make a judgement that he is a totally stingy jerk? and u will just leave him asap, and find another gold mine?

I don't agree this test, to be honest........but at another hand, i somehow believe a helpful hand is a good test for friendship though. eg: when u need a very small amount money urgently, and ur friends know u always have good credit.

i am confused too, that's the reason I ask him 'what's the point?" -fatboy(大胖墩儿厨); 2002-12-5 (#895273@0)

right, it just sounds a bad idea, coz it could even ruin some nice feeling about each other the two build at beginning. -babyface(★Unsophisticate★); 2002-12-5 (#895324@0)

通过他的朋友了解他。看看他工作的同事，他周围的朋友是怎样说的。//当然，你直接问也问不出来什么，可以让你的朋友帮助了解一下。 -lilyba(Sunshine); 2002-12-5 (#895145@0)

good idea. but when I did the same thing many many years agaom , my BF thought he met a KGB :( -ningxin0809(雁影行洲); 2002-12-5 (#895185@0)

You are not a KGB? 不过现在看看，还是满有效的。 :P。总之，我以为不能只从他是否对你好看他的为人，别人或许评价的更为客观。 -lilyba(Sunshine); 2002-12-5 (#895194@0)

sure. -ningxin0809(雁影行洲); 2002-12-5 (#895211@0)

let him post on Rolia -mssg(mssg); 2002-12-5 (#895146@0)

:-) -tongcd(zombie); 2002-12-5 (#895160@0)
嗯，终结方案。:-)) -babyface(★Unsophisticate★); 2002-12-5 (#895172@0)

傻丫头, Rolia上人膜狗养的更多, (#895132)*_* -ssi(文文); 2002-12-5 (#895214@0)

SO，原来你是同意我的。 -babyface(★Unsophisticate★); 2002-12-5 (#895225@0)

我经常都是跟你一个战壕的, 只不过比你看得远那么一点点点.... -ssi(文文); 2002-12-5 (#895253@0)

哈哈，又想起大话里的老猪了。:-)) -babyface(★Unsophisticate★); 2002-12-5 (#895259@0)

你也爱看那个, 我有COPY, 不过很久不看了. -ssi(文文); 2002-12-5 (#895264@0)

终结方案 -mssg(mssg); 2002-12-5 {15} (#895233@0)
if ssi says YES

Ha Ha............Hard to argue with u. ;-))) -babyface(★Unsophisticate★); 2002-12-5 (#895330@0)

动态心电图，心脏B超。 -d2o(怕就怕认真2字); 2002-12-5 {186} (#895191@0)
别说短时间你啦，长时间他自己、他父母都不一定能看出来，何况环境在不断变化，谁能打保票；昨天看新浪，成克杰成主席，多大年级、多高位置了，还准备和老伴离婚然后和老领导的儿媳重新开始新生活呢。
除了对你好之外，观察他对其他人的态度。 -mike2000(风筝--忙ing....); 2002-12-5 (#895224@0)

nod nod. but the probelm is when somebody is in love , they cannot see the others :) -ningxin0809(雁影行洲); 2002-12-5 (#895229@0)

成熟男人有自己的隐蔽性，要从对方下意识做的小事中去发现，对你、他人、他自己各自利益的表现中去找答案，太自私的人只会关心自己 -abn(伟翰); 2002-12-5 (#895245@0)

完全同意。“下意识“中最能看看到一个人真实面目。 -mike2000(风筝--忙ing....); 2002-12-5 (#895286@0)

时间短, 只能撞大运喽! 我看对大问题没有分歧, 性生活和的来就凑合吧!一般人都不会有品行问题,最多有一些坏毛病, 就看你能不能忍受! -gotyagood(云的影子); 2002-12-5 (#895246@0)
找他借钱 -foodbank(foodbank); 2002-12-6 (#898084@0)
看看他周围的人就知道他怎么样了，他是如何对待父母亲戚朋友的。 -777(领带); 2002-12-7 (#899035@0)
最重要他爱不爱你,你爱不爱他.一个人为人品行再好,如果他不爱你,你也不会幸福.人是有很多面的,在不同的人眼里同一个人会有很多面,关键你要喜欢他给你的那一面. -secretgarden(跳跳蓝莓); 2002-12-7 (#899746@0)
1。偷看他的日记。2。装作不认识他的MM和他上网聊天，送“你“的漂亮照片给他。。。 -earthcitizen(地球公民); 2002-12-7 (#899752@0)

刚上ROLIA，看到这么多的高见，有启发。 -oldlady(no); 2002-12-7 {238} (#900080@0)
已有一点了解了，他似乎不是个大方的人：第一次吃饭是他付钱，后来星期天上我处来，中午出去吃饭，他好象不是很抢了付钱，我就说我请你吧，我付了，接着去超市买食品，他也不帮我付。一般男人是不会让女的伏钱的，因为才几十块人民币。跟小器的男人能过吗？

多去他家看看他爹妈吧。孩子是父母的影子，他的一切潜在的东西有很多是可以从他爹妈身上看出来的，包括将来他会是怎样的一个丈夫和父亲。 -babygc2000(丹鹭); 2002-12-7 (#900116@0)
我这主意还不错吧，不过 -earthcitizen(地球公民); 2002-12-7 {54} (#900177@0)
劝你一句：看人嘛，抓住主要方面，小节嘛，差不多就行了。

还有，我刚才说的那两点是带点开玩笑性质的，望三思。。 -earthcitizen(地球公民); 2002-12-7 (#900189@0)

JJ,我的这位成熟男人倒是每次都抢着买单,可我怎么觉得他有点见外呢?有次我说了我请,可他还是把帐单抢了过去(当然也不是什么大数目),我觉得他没把我同等看待哦. -secretgarden(跳跳蓝莓); 2002-12-8 (#900267@0)

一般男人都是这样的，不是钱的多少，而是觉得让女的掏腰包有失面子。他太小器，我们才开始呢。 -oldlady(no); 2002-12-8 (#900313@0)

如果他成熟，一个月内根本不可能了解他；如果你了解到了他的本质，他就根本不成熟。祝好运。 -ilovewind(wind); 2002-12-7 (#900185@0)

如果他成熟,一夜就能了解；如果不成熟，培养几年也看不透其本质。 -doglet(狗圣); 2002-12-7 (#900230@0)

和他一块做 -renter(劲量土豆条); 2002-12-8 {4} (#900320@0)
饭！
1) Always keep eye contact when u r talking; 2) check out his friends; 3) does he like pets?; 4) discuss some sensitive topic e.g. living in common law, table danceing, sexsy jokes... -adamandeve(拿喇叭打蛤蟆哑巴喇嘛); 2002-12-8 (#900332@0)

yes,he like dogs.not those long hair dogs.just ordinary -look dogs.what is the use cooking together?. -oldlady(no); 2002-12-8 (#900402@0)

相信西方，WHERE ARE YOU？ -oldlady(no); 2002-12-8 {25} (#901621@0)
I AM NOT IN CA。HOW CAN？

大多数男人本质上是好的。 -warning(真的很笨); 2002-12-8 {377} (#900412@0)
Everybody is not bad if you have a tolerant heart. Everybody is gabbage if you stick to "perfection". It is hard to get the thorough idea of a man in a short time. It really takes time. Please do not make hasty conclusion. Everything happens when unexpected. What you can do is spend more time and participate in more activities together with him. You will get what you want.
让我们做一个实验吧 -westernizing(相信西方); 2002-12-8 {514} (#901021@0)
让我们做一个实验：

我可以做为一个实验标本，通过多次见面及参加一些活动，你可以体会一下我的人品，性格，过一段时间后，你可以把对我的理解总结一下，然后我们可以对照一下你的理解与我个人对自己的理解。其实，我在这方面能力也很差，所以我也可以形成对你的认识，然后互相讨论订正。认识肯定会有很多出入，但这正是总结提高我们识别别人的能力的机会。

我不想说太多，否则会有先入之见。

请放心，我这人没有找对象的目的，更没有别的坏目的，如果你有担忧，我们可以列明交往的条款。

其实，社会能力只能通过社会实践获的。

你说呢？
猛攻好的看相的书，面相，手相可以看出一个人 -annie_wangy(DOREMI); 2002-12-8 (#901629@0)
看对父母的是否孝敬，如果连对父母都不敬的话，我看这个人不行。这是个大方向。其他就根据你的标准看吧 -lq867(lq867); 2002-12-10 (#905798@0)

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I am confused, A, If he never mention the money ( Jeez, a big amount ?), which means what? he is generous to u (coz he is so interested with u?), or would u start to worry about his ability to protect his

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