还真指望有人给你发EMAIL？还真指望在这里找到激动的一刻？梦可以有很多，但有的梦你一定要清楚那只是梦。在国内的情况就不说了，到了加拿大，你先得自己立起来，稳稳的，然后你再来慢慢展你的魅力。MM们是现实的，尤其是过来的MM。未婚的MM，急于自立，或者睁大眼想找个永久的靠山，哪里会有时间陪你玩知己知彼；可能会让你找房子又是买电脑，可能你会激动得马不停蹄充满成就感，但更可能在得到一句简单的thanks后只留下一种别有用心之嫌；尽管大多数臭男人一开始总是因为对MM瞒有好感而自愿去做什么（很少见本来不喜欢而傻卖劲的吧），但事后MM会认为这种喜欢就是一种罪过！ 已婚的MM，情感上早已根深蒂固了！可能你会把MM（JJ也多）真的当回事，可能你是真诚的，可能你是有一千个伤心的理由，但更可能的你面对的永远只是个自称是很好的听众朋友，而你是个三流的作家，极可能的是得到一句简单的理解后留下一种纯粹空虚之嫌！

所以啊，省省啊，太痴太傻是男人的大敌和致命弱点，多留点时间做做正事才是硬道理；要是太累了，洗洗睡吧。还有啊，记住：唾液是人体之精华，不要轻易地浪费了。
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本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛People fear solitude. People need association. People crave after friendship, or at least, companionship. But more and more people feel extremely lonely.

Why arethey suspicious? Why are they alert? Life taught them.

When a stranger accosted you, you became alert immediatedly of his/her motive. Finally you found that he was intended to recruit you for multi-level marketing, or, she wanted to tell you the truth of Jiang's suppression of FLG.

After being annoyed again and again, could you be possibly as friendly and before?

Let us turn this topic aside. My point is, lift taught us to be so.

When I arrived Toronto, I found that Canadians are always smiling and even greeting strangers. I thought I should be doing so. Do in Rome as Rome does. I started to smile to the Chinese I met. What I got, in return, was always a poker face. Being neglected (I thought so) again and again, I did not smile any more.

I do not mean they are to blame. Very likely they have had the similar experience. It is conceivable that I may have a emotionless face to the newcomers too. I was taught by life, by others, and they were taught by others, and so on.....

I believe every new immigrant feel lonely, to differenet extents, but nobody likes to make the first move. Nobody likes to initiate talking. Nobody likes to break the ice.

I decide to play the role. I tell myself to be ready to speak to any Chinese I meet. I did so, not always. That proved to be wonderful. Be a trouper! Do you job!更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net