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please help my messy life

本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛I am a married lady with a lot of marriage problem. I left home to a new job after a big fight one year ago.

Recentaly i met a guy in the chat room. Because we have similar job, i wanted to disscuss some job issues with him. I gave him my email address. The second time we chat on the messanger. He wanted to call me he said he is not good at chatting in English. After some thinking, i gave him my phone number. We talked a lot about our careers and felt good about each other. He then asked for my picture for a couple of times. I finally gave up and sent him my picture. It was a regular picture.

Few minutes after he saw my picture, he said he wants to meet me. It was a boring long weekend for me. So said ok. So we drove to meet each other in the middle (we are very far away) without discussing the details about what to do after we meet. I thought about visiting a national park near by. But he had completely different ideas. He persistanly asked for sex and brought condom with him. May be i was kind of hungry for sex too due to the seperation with my hubby. Anyway we had sex all day in the hotel.

After came back, i felt bad about it and may be trapped into something like one night stand. So, i wished he dissapear forever and i just forget the whole thing.

But the odd thing is that he kept on calling me and we talked about our family, life, job, ... It was always a pleast talk with him. I started to miss him and think about him during the day. Then i would call him on weekends.

From his talkings, i know he does not want a permanent relation with me or anybody else. He is fine with his single life. He has extremely busy schedule and does not have much time for woman ( he works on nights, weekends). He does not want my husband to know what happened.

But I am afraid that i might fall in love with him. He is on my mind everyday.I can not wait to hear his call on weekends.

What should i do now? My life is a mess. On one hand i like him very much, on the other hand, i know there is no happy ending with him.

Please give me your comments at anytime. I will read new comments in the next couple of days.更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
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  • 枫下佳缘 / 情爱悠悠 / please help my messy life
    本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛I am a married lady with a lot of marriage problem. I left home to a new job after a big fight one year ago.

    Recentaly i met a guy in the chat room. Because we have similar job, i wanted to disscuss some job issues with him. I gave him my email address. The second time we chat on the messanger. He wanted to call me he said he is not good at chatting in English. After some thinking, i gave him my phone number. We talked a lot about our careers and felt good about each other. He then asked for my picture for a couple of times. I finally gave up and sent him my picture. It was a regular picture.

    Few minutes after he saw my picture, he said he wants to meet me. It was a boring long weekend for me. So said ok. So we drove to meet each other in the middle (we are very far away) without discussing the details about what to do after we meet. I thought about visiting a national park near by. But he had completely different ideas. He persistanly asked for sex and brought condom with him. May be i was kind of hungry for sex too due to the seperation with my hubby. Anyway we had sex all day in the hotel.

    After came back, i felt bad about it and may be trapped into something like one night stand. So, i wished he dissapear forever and i just forget the whole thing.

    But the odd thing is that he kept on calling me and we talked about our family, life, job, ... It was always a pleast talk with him. I started to miss him and think about him during the day. Then i would call him on weekends.

    From his talkings, i know he does not want a permanent relation with me or anybody else. He is fine with his single life. He has extremely busy schedule and does not have much time for woman ( he works on nights, weekends). He does not want my husband to know what happened.

    But I am afraid that i might fall in love with him. He is on my mind everyday.I can not wait to hear his call on weekends.

    What should i do now? My life is a mess. On one hand i like him very much, on the other hand, i know there is no happy ending with him.

    Please give me your comments at anytime. I will read new comments in the next couple of days.更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
    • forget it. it's just a scene in your life.let it be.
    • What a real story.....I understand what kind of mess u r into now....
      本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛esp u can't hold thinking of the guy all the time, no matter if he is deserved or not.....

      I don't know what kind of problem of your marriage is, but my suggestion would be: why don't u finish (doesn't have to be negative way) one thing firstly, ask yourself: is your marriage DEAD or not?

      Is there still possibility to resolve your problem with your husband? Do u still wanna share the rest of your life with him? or, even do u still miss or have feelings about him............if the answer is no. then well, u r more clear with your mind..... of coz u should / have to go ahead.......

      ..............But your marriage situation doesn't have to related with your new affair or what u have to decide with the man u mention. Coz what I am feeling in your words, is just u r in a unstable mood, that u wanna grab something, or u wanna confirm something, U might become over-sensitive even......which is just a stage for you, and you will go through very soon!.

      My point is: U DON'T HAVE TO MAKE ANY DECISION! NOT NOW!

      remember a song saied : Who cares more, who lose........well, it's cruel, it's devil......but it's somehow true in a love relationship........(To be honest, for him, maybe the relation is just about sex, or a nice company with whom he might have some nice conversation, then what? that's it! Don't bother to think of the guy too much before u know for sure he is deserved! and U "miss" him more from a distance, and U fall in "love" with a supposition imagine more.

      And, what's your feelings about him? love? no, hard to say that. I believe he is cute, and even .....more. :-P. but I bet couple weeks/months later, U maybe view "current" you with different feelings.....esp if U could succeed to disconcentrate yourself with other joys in life........Ya, there are many out there.

      Talking about needs, spiritually and physically..........If u know what u what very clearly, then go and get it.....If, u need only one thing at one time, and u got it, that's fine.........also it's fine if you wanna more later...........
      ...if he is not the type.....then let him go.......

      U will be FINE! so just keep smiling!更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
    • The most important is: Do you love your husband? if you do, You are completely wrong because you are woman not animal. I am a man, I understand what he think, he just like sexual with you
    • 你是男的吧?
      • Why do u think so?
        • Hi, I am a graduate student in engineering。 I am not happy because I donot have a girlfriend。& #592233
          • ....:-P. Do I (we?) have to do the background researching firstly all the time???
            • Not really, I just had a feeling that I saw this person's post some time ago. I am not 100% it's a he now.
          • ........But generally, can't women show interest with those topics any way???
            though......guess u r right!
      • you are kidding. hiahia
    • Looks like your husband is history, he's not even part of your questions. Make sure get divorce first, then start the relationship with the new guy. Long term, short term or even sex partner, whatever make you happier.
    • if u don't love this guy, u could keep this sex realationship with him; if u do, u'd better go far away from this guy, otherwise he will break ur heart finnaly. some of man aren't worth loving, i think he is.
    • Take it easy. Open your door and make many new friends. Your life space is too limited. By the way, I suggest you give up that net-guy.