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being nice is good

kangkang2009(kang kang)
本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛Being nice is very good to you and others.
But,

First, be professional, and being nice to the right person, I think you should talk with that worst guy first, tell him what he should do, what should not, if he listened to you and worked hard to fulfill his responsibility, be nice to him. Otherwise, maybe teaching him a lesson may be nicer than what you had done to him.

Second, you were nicer to that guy, but not fair to your company and your team, in other word, you are not nice to most of people around you in your case

Third, do not let some people take advantage of your nice

Fifth, nice is always good and welcome, a lot of people were nice to me, I even do not know their name, but i feel warm and, they have encourage me to do a lot of good things to others. Such as 5 years back in downtown, December, when I was selling some goods at the Conner of dundas, 3 Chinese girls came to me, and bought some goods from me, and said "new comer, not easy, we should help each other"

But anyway, you are very nice enough, and everybody should feel warm from your heart and should say “thank you” to you.更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
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Last Updated: 2009-5-1
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  • 工作学习 / 事业与工作 / 讲讲我的工作经历吧 - the meaning of being nice. -mikesmith(老猫); 2009-4-30 {3050} (#5231294@0)
    • 没人跟贴就精华了，not fair -vetra(豆泡果 之 多泡泡); 2009-4-30 (#5231320@0)
      • 呵呵，这不就有人了。 -mikesmith(老猫); 2009-4-30 (#5231331@0)
        • 老猫出品，必属精品。这是品牌效应。：） -webbwebb(rr_rolia); 2009-5-1 (#5233704@0)
    • do not understand why that "Worst" Chinese guy not doing his job fast, while he used to be a senior role? just because he wants extend his contract? -vetra(豆泡果 之 多泡泡); 2009-4-30 (#5231340@0)
      • I guess he was looking for a permanent job, so often coming late, disappearing during the day etc. without informing me or reporting his actual hours on the time sheet. -mikesmith(老猫); 2009-4-30 (#5231358@0)
        • communication is the most important thing! We Chinese people do not like speak out what happened and what situation is. The "worst" Chinese guy did wrong, neither did you. -vetra(豆泡果 之 多泡泡); 2009-4-30 (#5231736@0)
          • Absolutely. well, I did not say I did it right, right? -mikesmith(老猫); 2009-4-30 (#5231784@0)
            • no, you did not. I mean, you did not communicate with him while tried to cover him. I am not saying you should have not offer the favor to him -vetra(豆泡果 之 多泡泡); 2009-4-30 (#5231819@0)
    • admire you if youare really so nice -kangkang2009(kang kang); 2009-4-30 (#5231385@0)
      • 呵呵，我是不惮于自夸的。"nicest guy in the world" 是有点过了。but I can assure you, I am a very nice and quiet man. -mikesmith(老猫); 2009-4-30 (#5231404@0)
        • It is for sure that your English is quite good. -kangkang2009(kang kang); 2009-4-30 {86} (#5231428@0)
          I know a nicest guy. He taught .net free for people who had donated SiChang last year.
          • can I join? -mikesmith(老猫); 2009-4-30 (#5231620@0)
            • Please check your message! -kangkang2009(kang kang); 2009-5-2 {11} (#5235742@0)
              From Frank.
    • being nice with good luck doesn't mean that you will be nice for good. Still long way to go. Never try to be nice to everyone, it is because it isn't worth. -dop(道之河洛); 2009-4-30 (#5231413@0)
      • I am not naive. Maybe with good luck or being worthless, I have not met any real "bad" guy yet. -mikesmith(老猫); 2009-4-30 (#5231436@0)
        • I agree, you are not naive. Do you want to prompt yourself to next level? if yes, being aggressive is the direction you may want to pursue. -dop(道之河洛); 2009-4-30 (#5231487@0)
          • I don't know, really. I declined an opportunity about 2 years ago when things were going well. I always wanted a simple life - but I can lose much of my influence during organizational change. -mikesmith(老猫); 2009-4-30 (#5231510@0)
    • No offense. Being nice=sucker. I once took on not only a peer's work when he's not delivering what I needed, but also my boss' when she's pre-occupied. Results-my boss was let go; so were the rest of her team. -into(候鸟); 2009-4-30 {103} (#5231461@0)
      In the future I will only take care of myself and won't take responsibility for the rest of the world.
      • Yep, I am quite familiar with the term - I am one myself in its true form. Thanks for the reminder. My workload has been >50 hours per week for the past 3 years. I am in a conference call now. What a sucker and slacker. LOL. -mikesmith(老猫); 2009-4-30 (#5231481@0)
    • Being nice doesn't mean tolerance of those hurting the business, that is NOT fair to others making contribution. -vicky2005(孩子她爹); 2009-4-30 (#5231496@0)
      • i know. My character is flawed. -mikesmith(老猫); 2009-4-30 (#5231517@0)
      • 没什么 fair 不 fair 的，偷懒的人到处都有，能做就做，不能做就不做，老猫不聪明的地方就是 没有cover 好，要不就是不 cover ， 要不就是 cover 全，否则自己就被blamed. -vetra(豆泡果 之 多泡泡); 2009-4-30 (#5231770@0)
    • good! good to be nice. my former supervisor was so nice, i worked hard for her. -hungrybee(无所事事的小机灵); 2009-4-30 (#5231590@0)
    • 最重要的是be professional，be nice也要有理有节，否则成了老好人，一旦当了领导，要么把自己累的贼死，要么不敢大胆管理使得手下一盘散沙。。。 -nodream(～～～); 2009-4-30 (#5231675@0)
      • true -mikesmith(老猫); 2009-4-30 (#5231789@0)
        • hmm, really nice guy... -nodream(～～～); 2009-4-30 (#5231903@0)
    • very very nice....actually ,,, I think post this here and share the story with us ,,,that's really nice -cam2007(虎小鞭); 2009-4-30 (#5231778@0)
    • You have my respect for what you said in your post. -mscrm(沉稳); 2009-4-30 (#5231896@0)
    • 旧贴重贴，无聊否？ -wukongjj(不经历风雨怎么见彩虹); 2009-4-30 (#5231955@0)
      • 这不是今天有空嘛。再说这是我第一次说这个经历，怎么就成旧贴了？ -mikesmith(老猫); 2009-4-30 (#5232233@0)
    • 10年前， 我好像也做过那个项目。 -simmersnake(步履无声); 2009-4-30 (#5232670@0)
    • 果然好人!!!很符合加拿大的价值观. -choice(月光下的凤尾竹); 2009-4-30 (#5232682@0)
    • being nice is good -kangkang2009(kang kang); 2009-5-1 {1127} (#5233237@0)
      本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛Being nice is very good to you and others.
      But,

      First, be professional, and being nice to the right person, I think you should talk with that worst guy first, tell him what he should do, what should not, if he listened to you and worked hard to fulfill his responsibility, be nice to him. Otherwise, maybe teaching him a lesson may be nicer than what you had done to him.

      Second, you were nicer to that guy, but not fair to your company and your team, in other word, you are not nice to most of people around you in your case

      Third, do not let some people take advantage of your nice

      Fifth, nice is always good and welcome, a lot of people were nice to me, I even do not know their name, but i feel warm and, they have encourage me to do a lot of good things to others. Such as 5 years back in downtown, December, when I was selling some goods at the Conner of dundas, 3 Chinese girls came to me, and bought some goods from me, and said "new comer, not easy, we should help each other"

      But anyway, you are very nice enough, and everybody should feel warm from your heart and should say “thank you” to you.更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
      • THANK YOU. I rejected an offering in the management team was exactly because what you just pointed it out. -mikesmith(老猫); 2009-5-1 (#5233280@0)
      • I agree. but what is the fourth point in your numbered point? maybe the last point is the fourth? -skitennis(tennisfan); 2009-5-1 (#5234232@0)
      • agree -mademoiselle(N/A); 2009-5-2 (#5235982@0)
    • totally agree. You handle things with grace, you will be treated gracefully. well, at least most of time. -win(秋天的菠菜); 2009-5-1 (#5233256@0)
    • You have a very warm heart -voice(D.C.O.); 2009-5-1 {204} (#5233722@0)
      Most importantly, (though you kept the secrete to yourself, hoho, kidding...) You must also know what is the right thing to do and able to get results, so you got advancement in career, applaud for you...
    • 才看见，不顶不行 -fatpenguin(一路无眠,山水有梦); 2009-5-1 (#5233762@0)
    • Hi, please PM me anytime if you need a hand on anything, esp. when you become a boss... -skitennis(tennisfan); 2009-5-1 (#5234241@0)
    • 你的确是个nice的人。不过我也同意前面有人的说法，这样子对认真工作的人不 fair 。leader有责任是让每个人有效的工作。如果我遇上这样的情况，我会跟他开诚布公的谈，他有事情可以请假离开，事后把该做的工作补上，我会尽力帮他，而不是我替他担了所有的责任。 -mimier(mimier); 2009-5-1 (#5235031@0)
    • wow ... if you are described as nice here, it certainly is not a good thing though ... but it's our nature, I guess -mademoiselle(N/A); 2009-5-2 (#5235973@0)
    • In one word, be tough on the problem, be easy with people. -goingconern(GoingConcern); 2009-5-4 (#5240231@0)

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