because he has kids. This is very important. You can email me at lostandfound16@hotmail.com as I am in similar situation. Maybe we can chat a bit more.

he very intrested in you, sorry , you should say, he very intrested on insert something in you, this , most close to the truth, what u need? love or sex? is sex is the onlything for love? is ur english as good as chinese?

1, How old are his kids, and does he live with them? I assume there should be some baseline of your own when you consider a successful relationship?

2, you didn't say how long you guys are seeing each other already, so I am not sure if him showing his interest in you means he gave (or will give ) commitment already. why don't you take time and build up a more solid relationship bwteen you two firstly.

3, sounds he is a nice guy, so I assume he is aware you are from different culture (and background also?), and would always stand by you and help you to communicate with his kids better when situation comes?
oh yeah, communicate ! communicate ! communicate ! :-))

4, sometimes, it's easier to handle things by not puting too much complicated thoughts too early before the real time comes.

5, good-looking guys are not necessarily untrustful or unfaithful, it's really depends on their personality and if they take their looks way too serious. lol. well...........

Good luck!

a real good relationship is based on the common value (cultural, monetory, family-wise) the two parties hold, then with the appreciation and trust to each other, then with a mutual physical attraction.

My very good westen friend (married) told me: you should stay in a relationship for happiness, you're not supposed to fight for the problem all the time, because problem will always be problem, no matter how many communications you have if you don't have a mutual understanding of the value each other is holding, which is an important factor for solid relationship. This is generally what western man think about no matter in inter-racial relationship or not.

But if you only look for a companiagn, or you think you're a person easy to compromise, then don't think too much.

My two cents, Good luck.

本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛We have not dated for long. But he is much fun and attractive. His kids live with him sometimes (little kids) .

So I think if I keep going like this, I will really fall for him. I am towards finishing a degree program and looking for a job, and have some other things to do. So I am really busy at the moment.

If just for fun, he is certainly a good partner and friend. But if I really fall in love, that demands a lot of time and efforts to build the multicutrual relationship and get along with the kids and I have to sqeeze time from a already busy schedule. And I can imagine that I have to make a lot of compromises. Then If the relationship does not work out, I am doomed and by no means I want to get hurt so far away from home. In that case, I would rather end the relationship before too late and save myself some time.

He is attractive, kind and very active, not the shy type. So that is where I see danger.

I am serious about it. Sex is an important part of a successful relationship, but intimacy is more than just sex. Maybe I pay too much attention on physical attractions, but you have to admit this is the initial love connection between a couple. I know some people so not like it, but this is the way of the world and you have to accept it.

Anyways, thanks for your advice again.更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net

Chinese mind, however, is also hard to read sometimes. Fate can hardly be predicated either.

The risk is that once having that kind of relationship with white guys, you can never be accepted by Chinese guys any more. Chance is that you might be still be accepted by guys other than Chinese.

I hope I am wrong. What do you think?