本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛My Dad is a doctor. Mum is a teacher. I was their second son. They have a daughter. Before Dad got married with Mum, he ever loved another woman. Because of the Chinese Culture Revolution, he was forced to abandon her and married my Mum.
He worked and studied very hard, and achieved a certain scusses in medical field when I was 4 yrs old. But probably it was his idea, Mum and Dad performed a play in front of me and sister. Mum cried and complained him, ' You always only take care of your job, but push all homework to me!.... I want to divoice with you!' When I was a child, I couldnt tell their trick. And then parents asked their daughter to raise an question to me,' if they were divoiced, who you would like to choose to live with?' I though, Mum is week and poor than Dad, I should go with her. Then I answered, I followed with Mum.

After that, Dad treated me unfairly and rudely. He beated me always on my head, legs... since I was 4 years old till teens. He didnt give me any gifts, money. My clothes, shoes are all used from his daughters. Untill I grew up, it was Mum who purchased living stuffs for me. After high school graduation, I only took 2 years colleges. And probably it was my Mum who support me on that. Yet his daughter enjoied another totally different life. She could ask me to anything for her. She could get lots of gifts from relatives, his friends. She enjoied 5 years medical university in China and 2 years study abroad.
Since I was child till I grown up as an adult, they never give me mercy. I must save each pennies at home. I was not allowed to use phone for more than 5 minutes, I was not allowed to take a bath over 15 minutes. Yet I undertook lots of homework for them. I never feel warmth and true heart feeling at home. I was very upset in that passtime.

Therefore, I feel I must leave them! I must find my heaven!

3 years ago, I succeed in immigration to here. And before I leave, I scucceed win a girl's affection. 1 year ago, I married her and applied her to here. We, young couples, start my new life in Canada. And I want to abandon my used name, as if the dad has being 'abandoned' me since 25 yrs ago.

They begin scared. They say harsh words upon us to wife's parents. Actually they only give me a little money for our marriage. They begin to beg me come back their home. Though I try hard to clear my any memory about them, but every Spring Festival, they call me one time. And some vacations, they call me some times. I cut those calls as I receive the phone and heard their voice.
Once, I heard my Mum's voice. It was from an old woman. The voice was low, and week. The voice was sad, and guilty. The voice sounds regretful and pitty. She was my ever mum.
I remeber once a upon a time, I told her that her husband sleep with his old love when I saw this scene in through tape at my 18 years old, and her daughter was in university. She cired sadly. But she didnt try to suicide. I wandered, since her husband cheat her affection for such long time, why she could accept this fact!? I wandered, when I tried to ask the dad for explaination, why she stoped my mouth! I was an adult, and did I have the right to know your reason, didnt I?????!!!!!

I prefer to grow up in a poor family, but with love from each other. I appreciate my wife's famlily. She is poor also. What we have is only no more than $20,000. And her parents, younger brother are living in a small town in China. She is a nice and sweet girl like most of people, not like me. I am suppressed, lack of confidence, although I performanced well in programming in China, and have a certain skill in oral english. But thoughout my unhappy time in China, I am lack of confidence, and feel frustrated easily....

Every time when I receive Mum's call, I feel mainly angry, yet coming with a little bit hesitation. Sometimes I dream of parents. Part of the dreams are with anger. Part of them are with tears. Part of them are with pitty on mum.

But I decide to abandom them, especially the dad and his daughter. And in order to punished his daughter, I leave mum for her. They are living in US. She has enough money to rasise the parents.

Will my decesion be wrong? Will my decesion make me feeling guilty in the future? Will my offspring think me guilty?

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重庆农妇状告留美博士儿追踪：叫声“妈”？永远不可能!
2004-3-24
　

重庆市忠县野鹤乡61岁的袁和梅状告留美博士儿案，前日开庭后又休庭，法院近日将向在美国迈阿密的罗丹会发出传票。昨日上午，记者与远在美国的罗丹会取得联系，他明确表示：不可能叫袁和梅一声“妈”。

罗丹会称，他已经从朋友口中得到生母正在起诉他的消息，但至今未收到法院正式的传票。“那是一段很让人心酸的回忆！”罗丹会说，生母为了想嫁人，把他送给伯父养，此后再也没有给自己一丁点母爱。生母现在找自己，最主要的原因可能是需要一些经济支持，并非袁和梅所说的“为了母子之情”。

记者说：“她最大的希望是能听你喊她一声‘妈’。”“这是绝对不可能的。”罗丹会很坚决地说，作为母亲，首先是不能抛弃自己的孩子。本报记者 刘宇 孙鹏

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我和这个博士是一个村里的。我不认识他，但听说过他小时候的故事。听人说过，这个孩 子小时候很可怜啊，他那个妈把他送了几次人，都没送掉。这孩子天生就和常人不一样， 每次都哭得死去活来，总让人送回来。为此不知挨了他娘多少打。听说四岁送人前没过过 一天好日子，村人都说其母无比狠毒。后来，这孩子的大伯知道了，给接过去了。听说大 伯家条件也不好，小孩多，仍然把他抚养成人。那个母亲从前看他是负担，送人后从未想 起过儿子，现在听说儿子发达了，突然想起认亲，哎，世上还有这样的人

本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛　　■儿子不认母伯父另有说法
几经周折，记者终于联系上了罗继汪，这位身在北京女儿家的七旬老人接受了采访。
　　罗继汪首先表示自己不是以一个当事人的身份表态，“因为罗丹会已经41岁了，他要怎么做完全是他自己的事，与别人无关！”罗继汪说，弟弟罗继流去世后的第3年，袁和梅便改嫁到了别家，而她对小丹会却没有尽到做母亲的责任，孩子几乎由自己的另一个弟弟照顾。
　　为了孩子的前途，1966 年他将小丹会接到在万县东门口的岳父家中寄养；1967 年春，通过忠县及长春有关部门的审核，将小丹会的户口转到自己户口上，关系就明确为“次子”，之后小丹会便随自己在长春生活。“公安机关都承认了我和孩子的（父子）关系，只不过我就少了一张和袁和梅的抱养书，但这怎么能说不是收养关系呢？”
　　1973 年，罗继汪全家回到了巫山县，那时候弟弟罗继流所在煤矿的同事还专程来看望了小丹会，从那时候起，小丹会就知道了自己的身世，而孩子却并没有表现出太多的异常，继续着他在学习上的名列前茅；1978 年罗继汪一家又来万县定居，当时袁和梅与后夫所生的儿子来万县看病，还在自己家住了一些日子，尽管这样，袁和梅也没有一句口信或者是一件礼物问候丹会；1980 年，丹会考上了上海交通大学，这个好消息立即在弟弟罗继流所在煤矿传为佳话，煤矿方面甚至还专门给丹会买了重庆到上海的船票。
　　“丹会每搬一次家，我都会给袁和梅说他的地址和电话，也劝过丹会给他生母写信或是寄照片，但他已经成人，他怎么做完全自己做主了！”罗继汪说，这么多年来，袁和梅有很多机会能见到儿子，可她却根本没有这样做，却说成是“不知道儿子在哪儿”。而在2000 年，袁和梅印制了很多传单在罗继汪万县的生活范围内发放，把罗继汪说成一个“阻拦母子见面”的罪魁祸首。对此，罗继汪表示将保留控告袁和梅侵犯自己名誉和编造事实的权利。更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net